Perfect in our imperfection

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What do we have over here?Is it possible that Brett and I are too incompatible to be together?

I mean, right off the bat we couldn’t agree on what the purpose of a bathmat is. I think it’s there to keep my feet warm when I get out of the shower. I think the purpose of most things is to keep me warm actually. Yet he thinks the whole purpose of the bathmat is to keep the floor from being wet. Which results in a really wet bathmat. Do you know how cold a sopping wet bathmat can be? Cold. Really cold. Which defeats the whole purpose of the bathmat if you ask me.

And then we have books. Yes, we both love to read. There are full bookcases in just about every room of our house, with more boxes of books we don’t have room for. But we can’t agree on just how to read a book. I think you are supposed to read a book, finish it, and move on to the next one. I’ll read several thousand pages a year. He might read a book or two. Just read the darn book already!

Not to mention socks. When I fold the socks they look like a hoagie bun. He ties his socks in a knot. Literally. How can we be expected to get along when we can’t even agree on how to fold socks?!

There’s the fact that when I clean a mirror I use up-and-down strokes and he uses side-to-side strokes. When I crack a raw egg I bang it on the side of the bowl and he hits it with a fork. When I crack a hard-boiled egg I wrap it in a napkin and roll it between my hand and the counter while he hits it on the counter and then peels the shell off piece by piece. I floss before I brush. He flosses after. And you’ll never catch him wandering the house doing small tasks while he brushes his teeth either.

I’m a night owl. He’s an early bird. I stretch after I run. He stretches before. I like a computer desktop free of icons. His computer desktop has icons across half the screen. When he watches TV that’s the only thing he’s doing. When I turn the TV on I can be up doing the dishes, or in the other room trading out the laundry, or even in the kitchen fixing myself a snack, and still follow the plot of the show. He likes bar soap at the sink and I like soft soap.

And that’s just the tip of the iceberg with how incredibly different we are! How could we possibly be soul mates when we are so fundamentally different?

Yet we’re perfect for each other. Because he’ll dry his feet as he steps out of the shower now so the bathmat stays dry for me. And we each fold our own socks. Of all our differences, neither of us is doing any of them wrong, we’re just doing them differently.

The bulk of the little things just aren’t big enough for us to make an issue out of. Plus, they keep things interesting. The perfect person for us isn’t perfectly like us. How boring/annoying would it be if we mirrored each other all day long?

We agree to love and respect each other, including, and especially, our differences. That’s really one of the most important things we need to agree on.

That’s what makes us meant to be together. (Well, that and the whole long list of posts I could write about all the things we do that are similar.)

10 shared thoughts about Perfect in our imperfection

  1. Elsewhere says:

    Good grief. And both of you analyze and debate and query and investigate all the small nuances of life, are very careful decision makers, love trying new stuff together, are computer geeks (in the best sense of the word), and have way more in common than you don’t.

  2. Brett says:

    :love: Love you, Princess! :heart:

    Not to mention that you make a beautiful penguin.

    I might add that you’re making headway with me on how to peel a hard-boiled egg, but I wouldn’t get your hopes up for the other things.

    Happy Valentine’s Day!


  3. Whitney says:

    This was so so so so so so so sweet. I got a little misty eyed at the end, reading how you brought it all together. Happy Valentine’s Day!!!

  4. Giggle

    We fold our socks differently too, so it’s good to know it doesn’t become a dealbreaker later! :wink:

  5. mama g says:

    Love you both. :)

  6. Denice says:

    I am so glad that you come to an agreement on the important things in life!

  7. Mitali says:

    You floss before you brush your teeth? I’m going to have to go with Brett on that one… Hope you had a great Valentine’s Day! Have a great weekend!

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