When I woke up yesterday morning to feed Iddo her first breakfast my site already had 50 visits for the day. Yesterday a piece I wrote about feminism was published on A Practical Wedding – The Story of a Square-Pegged Feminist.
I have long identified as a feminist, and I’ve long been told that I’m not one, which really annoys me. There are too many people who only see the extreme stereotypes for women. You are either bare-foot, pregnant, in the kitchen and completely submissive or you are a bra-burning man hater. The reality of life is that neither of those stereotypical extremes actually fully exists. Stereotypical extremes of all kinds hurt everyone.
Life is a messy spectrum and I have no internal conflict being a bare-foot feminist with a baby and a PhD, whipping up dinner in the kitchen for my husband while quilt blocks cover the kitchen table. (See “I’m a S.W.A.M.“) I’m a feminist because I want equity for all of humanity, men and women.
I am a woman. That makes me different than men in innumerable ways. It does not make me worse than men. It does not make me better. I have value as a human. I do not need to be a man, or even be like men, to have value.
One of the ironies our modern age is that many feminists are passionate about giving women the right to think for themselves and about defending those choices — just as long as they think the right things and make the choices expected of them. “Feminism” in too many people’s minds has become synonymous with “social liberalism.” :brett:
Brett’s comment above are my thoughts exactly. Heading over to read your post! 50 hits is great, I love that people are reading your thoughts daily, I think you are awesome!
That was just by 8am. By the end of the day it had tripled that.
I tend to like Brett’s thoughts too. That’s why I married him. 😉
This is the kind of feminism and equality I support as well. I also like to think about it as giving everyone all the options. To work, to stay home, to pursue higher education, to not, etc. Men and women. I have a couple of friends here in VA who recently had a baby. The mom is now working and the dad is staying home. If that’s the right choice for them and their family, that’s awesome, and I will support their choice and hope they grant me and my family and our choices the same respect!